14 Things To Avoid In A Conversation

This is not so surprising but everybody knows, to create a never ending bond with someone, one should know a person in the all the ways possible.

To know a person, you must know how to create and maintain a conversation. Conversations are not all about talking but about understanding. To have a perfect conversation, you must keep a hold of these points:

1. Instead of talking too much, listen: People mostly think that to be engaged in a conversation, one should keep speaking. But that’s not true at all. In any perfect conversation, there should be a proper balance between listening and talking.

Constantly listening to the other person with no views, may make the person feel that you’ve no interest in what they're talking. Speaking too much makes you look pathetic. Make sure, you listen, understand and speak. Always ensure the balance between talking and listening.

2. Asking too many questions: Mostly people think it’s quite cool to ask questions and make the other person interested in talking to you. It doesn’t look interesting in any way but creepy? Yes. It looks way too creepy.

Person is talking to you, (s)he is not giving any interview. So never ask too many questions in any conversation to impress anyone. It irritates.

3. Stop being Google: It’s okay that you have a huge store full of information. Instead of showing it to the person talking to you, you can write a blog.

Nobody needs your over collected information, they have Google for it. You can never impress someone by becoming extra ordinarily smart, it never indulges someone in conversation. So avoid being Google.

4. Create senseless topics: “Hey! That aunty’s daughter scored this”

“My mom’s sister’s husband’s friends’ brother went to Africa”

Topics like these make no sense. Nobody is interested in knowing what your uncle’s daughter did and why. It makes the conversation too tedious.

To make a discussion interesting, start discussing about something sensible. Talk about any headline in newspaper, talk about their school life, childhood, their day, their likes, their dislikes and so many good topics which can make the other person indulged in the conversation. It’ll help you know that person precisely without making your conversation tedious.

5. Don’t compare experiences: If somebody tells you about how bad they felt when any XYZ thing happened to them, then listen to them properly. Never use things like ohh! similar thing happened with me long ago. Never.

They tell you something, to feel better and release the burden which is already eating them. Make them feel your comfort instead of sharing your own experience. All experiences are individual in their own way. Yours is different, too. Thus, avoid comparison in any way.

6. Don’t get too excited to reply: Can you see the example in given screenshot? It makes the other person know that you’re no way interested in knowing their problems properly but to give your suggestions.This will always restrain them to talk about any incident with you because they end up thinking that you simply blabber with no sense

Don’t hurry much. The other person can wait for better opinions. Listen properly and then speak. Conversations are incomplete without sense.

7. Take compliments as compliments, not love confessions: Make sure, if somebody compliments you, take it as a compliment only. It easily reflects the heights your brain can think. You're easily judged and you may easily lose the person. Never do this

8. Gossiping: Most of the times, this is the most annoying thing people do. Some people think, I can make some space in his/her life by bitching about anyone. Come on! This is the cheapest form of finding space and time, to talk to someone.

Instead, find a better and sensible topic to talk about. That is more captivating. Avoid this type of bitching in any conversation. If you do this thing in any of your conversation, it makes it easy for the person to judge you. And so, you’ll lose it all.

9. Avoid using emojis: Can you see the example in the given screenshot? Believe me, it irritates the other person to a level that the person feels like throwing their phone. If you don’t feel like talking, leave the conversation but don’t do this.

You sound too immature and irritating at the same time. Try using less emojis. Conversation will be better.

10. Late replies: If you try to talk to so many people at the same time being too smart, then you must ensure that your typing speed is smart enough to handle all of them with no time difference.

There’s nothing so new about it, late replies are too annoying and may put full stop to a good relationship. Always avoid late replies in any of your conversation.

11. Be real: Oh yeah! Being real is too important and ignored at the same time. If you genuinely feel the respect, show it. If you genuinely appreciate the person, then say it. Don’t try to make stories in any part of the conversation. Say whatever comes in your heart without exaggerating much.

Fake words are easily captured and so, you get into unnecessary web of the person’s hate list. You may become the part of block list too. Avoid being fake.

12. “What you doing?”: Isn’t it quite senseless question? If somebody is talking to you right now, it means that the person is completely free. Once in a while, this question is okay. If you constantly repeat this question in your conversation, person easily loses interest in you and will start ignoring you. So don't ask this question repeatedly.

13. Try to sound polite rather than ruthless: Some people are mistaken as being rude every time.To avoid this, take the name of person in conversation. For example, If you use “I’m here for you, Aashi” instead of using “I’m here for you” gives a different type of comfort.

This will always make the other person feel that you are genuinely there for them. Thus use names whenever you want to show them you care. It’ll make your conversation really beautiful.

14. "Hmm, okay': Either talk properly or leave the conversation. Do not give the continuous horn in midst of the conversation using Hmm and okay. Use it only when you find nothing else to reply. But try your best to avoid it.

CONCLUSION: These are 14 things to avoid in a conversation. Be very real and talk directly. Talk about anything and everything. Come out from the zone of hello, how are you, what you doing.

Talk about days, sun, moon, downfalls, success, universe, love, books, science and life. This will always make some sense in any conversation. Also, gives people to know the person that resides inside you. Avoid the above mentioned points and start a perfect conversation!